In case you didn’t know Lauren is getting married!! I am super excited for her and I thought that it would be a good time to talk about the other side of the “wedding coin” how to be a good guest. Lauren wrote last week that she might be a “Tacky Bride” I thought that the greater danger was having tacky guests. So, I’m here to walk you through what to do and not to do when you are invited to a wedding.
Please be aware that no matter how chill your bride is right now, she will eventually ride the crazy train during the wedding planning. Your task is to do anything in your power to humor the bride during this tumultuous time. You’re probably wondering why I haven’t mentioned the groom? Because if he’s smart he will agree with 95% of whatever the bride and her family have decided. Most likely the groom probably just wants a simple party with friends and family, good food and booze, and the minimal amount of fuss (and cost). If he’s smart he knows that there will be a lot of fuss, it won’t be cheap and to just go along for the ride.
- Please RSVP as soon as possible. It shows that you’re excited to join in on the festivities! Make sure to note the date in your planner, telephone, and day planner.
- If you have food allergies! Most weddings have at least one option for people with special dietary needs. If you have extreme allergies let the bride know. If she can’t accommodate your needs then eat before you arrive and go with the vegetarian option. My friend had a guest with special dietary needs (vegetarian/gluten allergy/only drinks soy milk). My friend accommodated that guest and the guest had the nerve to complain to other guests that the option was o.k. WTF?! The option she was served was actually pretty amazing and she got some free food. She should have graciously thanked my friend and kept it simple.
- Your friend will talk about the wedding-A LOT. If you aren’t married and don’t get it, don’t worry you will do the same when it’s your turn. Just listen attentively while she talks, then practice your ability to tune out once you hit your limit. Smile and nod, ask pointed questions and make sure to share photos, ideas with the bride. I enjoyed doing this but did get a little overwhelmed when my friend was getting married. I’m going to be honest I needed to take breaks from time to time from all of the wedding talk. My bff and I were talking almost every week, several times a week. Luckily, my bff lives in London so it was easy to take breaks from time to time.
- Be genuinely excited for the couple!! If you can’t manage to be genuine about being happy for the couple, then you should not be going to that wedding. Period.
Wedding Day Etiquette:
- Arrive on time!
- Don’t drink too much. You don’t want to be the guest who throws up, starts crying, passes out, hits on everyone, falls into the water, or pulls down the decorations accidently.
- DO NOT complain about the food! Even if it’s bad. Just fuss about it after the wedding (in your house). The bride and groom have gone through considerable expense and time to feed you-for FREE. Eat it and keep your mouth shut.
- Dress Comfortably-You may even need a shawl or cardigan in case the venue gets cold. Wear shoes that you can dance in comfortably. If you don’t, no one wants to hear about your hurting toes. That’s your fault for wearing the wrong shoes.
- Bring a gift-Do what is comfortable for you. Every couple that I’ve spoken with mentioned that they received gifts that weren’t on their gift registry. If you’re that person (I was) be savvy about what you give. Only do this if you really know the couple well.
- Dance your butt off! Even if you don’t like the music. Do the Robot, the Running Man, the Electric Slide. Just have fun!
- Take pictures!!
After the wedding:
- Send a “Thank You” card: not an email.
- Conveniently forget everything that annoyed you during the planning process.
You’re now ready to be a kick a@@ wedding guest. Lauren-when and where is the wedding??