I love reading articles related to money and then giving my faithful readers an earful. Last month I commented on a piece “Shape” Magazine wrote about the Five Most Common Money Nightmares among women. This month I am going to focus a piece I found very interesting courtesy of CNN about money and sex . This article raises the question “What makes you happier sex or money?”.
In a Prince & Associates survey of all the multimillionaires (including Mitt Romney) in the world, 70% said wealth gave them “better sex”. The article did not specify if they were comparing the sex that they had when they were poor to sex they have now, or if they just think they have better sex than the rest of the 99%. What about most multimillionaires who are born into their extensive wealth? I find this a bit of a broad statement to be making in a survey, as it’s hard to quantify. Not surprising: The men taking this survey said “better” sex =more sex with more partners. P.S. CNN- that’s not an exclusively “rich guy” thing.
I get that having bundles of cash means you don’t have to worry about the same things that keep most of us awake at nights; freeing you to have more energy and drive for sexual romping. It has been proven that women who experience stress have a lower libido, but that still doesn’t mean you can’t crank out a great orgasm every now and then just because you are poor. It’s Maslow’s heirarchy for sure, but the article also contests that having more money for things like fancy trips, champagne, and expensive toys can increase pleasure.
Maslow’s Heirarchy. AKA: Why you don’t feel like “doing it”.
My thoughts on Money and Sex
What made me yell out “OH COME ON!” as I was reading was the paragraph about how women who have sex with rich men experience better orgasms. According to the survey, when a man’s net worth increased so did the frequency of their female partner’s orgasms. What was the control factor for this? If a wealthy man is banging a not so wealthy girl how do we know she wasn’t lying about her orgasms? Wouldn’t she say anything to get her hands on that paper? They follow this with how infidelity exponentially increases with net worth—proving my point that the people taking the survey might already be experienced in the the art of fibbing. Still, the article asserts female orgasms might increase with wealthier partners as an evolutionary mechanism for women to find “stable” partners who will be able to care for their needs.
What I’m hearing is…much like the Lucky Charms leprechaun, my clitoris can now detect gold. I only have to tell the lucky gent my legends of the hidden temple to establish the true pauper from the prince!
The second half of the article gets much better, in my opinion, when they cite another study done at Dartmouth with 16,000 of us 99 percent-ers. Findings are in: the more sex you have, the happier you are. How happy? The equivalent of having $50,000.00 more per year. (Before or after taxes is what I wanna know…) Another thing I was surprised to learn-sex has been proven to make you better at your job. So more sex = wealth and happiness. This can lead you to become a millionaire and then you really get to enjoy the freaky! It is a self-fulfilling prophecy!
Jokes aside, I don’t think this article is without merit and I found it enjoyable and interesting. The article gives some sound advice for those couples who aren’t lucky enough to be fabulously wealthy; treat your relationships with the same care as you would treat your money. I’m happy to learn there is now scientific proof love indeed nourishes way more than money ever could. And for those of you fighting your way out of debt or working with a really tight budget-just have more sex with your spouse/partner. Aside from being the cheapest thing to do on a Saturday night, it’s now proven to make you feel richer, instantly.
What do you think about these findings on the connection between Money and Sex?
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This is one great way to start to off a Monday morning! For sure there is a link between money and sex. The two of them lead to the basics of Maslow’s hierarchy providing security and comfort, even if indirectly doing so. I also agree with your explanation of the better orgasms with rich men thing; which is pretty funny by the way. I do fully believe that a healthy sex life does feed into all other avenues of your life, making you much more confident, energetic, and possibly successful.
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lovely article, Lauren..
i have read study after study that says that even with an increase in wealth, there is no accompanying increase in happiness.. But apparently there is an increase in the quantity and quality of sex, which might be an even bigger motivator to many!
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So long as you’re not making babies, sex is definitely an inexpensive way to get a few endorphins moving in your system. (I hear babies are expensive…)
There’s also a big health aspect to it, too! Haven’t there been other studies that tie a healthy sex life to better physical and mental health, as well? Surely bettering those aspects also contribute to wealth (or at least the feeling of wealth), right?
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Haha thanks for the laugh! I agree that money worries aren’t good for your libido, and keeping your mind out of bills, what you’ll eat tomorrow to be able to concentrate on yourself only is the key to great sex. Rich people probably don’t have to worry about much, if they are successful they certainly delegated a lot of their daily lives, leaving a lot of space in their brain to be good at business, and well, sex.
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Thanks for the laugh! And here I thought I’d be having another boring Monday morning.
I am sure there’s a link between the two, but not at the level they’re claiming. That said I am sure there’s some sort of link between finances, stress and sex life.
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Glad I could make you smile.
“my clitoris can now detect gold” Priceless! In my own unscientific research, it seems reasonable to think it all goes slightly hand in hand. More confidence=more sex, happiness, and wealth…but to possibly get confidence (like say for instance to buy nice clothes, good grooming, gym membership) you need money. Which comes first? That age-old question. It’s probably not the case for everyone, but I know when I have freelance jobs coming in, I definitely feel more confident and happier, which probably leads to better things.
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As I was reading this article, all I kept thinking was they seem to be talking about a specific type of person who gets turned on by money (cough cough gold digger). That being said, I definitely see there being a link between sex and money. I agree with you that if you’re less stressed about money, your sex drive will probably increase. The same for being healthy – eating right and exercising. They all go hand in hand.
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You do realize the hits your going to have from people looking for hookers, don’t you? I think wealth can certainly get you more sex. How many Barbie dolls do you think Hugh Hefner would be getting if he weren’t rich?
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I don’t know how to comment on this without making myself look like a whore so I’m just going say it:
I had mediocre sex with a man that brought in $190,000 per year but incredible sex with another who earned only $25,000 per year so I’m not sure about the richer = better thing.
Crazy that more sex feels like an extra $50,000. That means that after a hookup, I’m basically a six-figure earner. Woohoo! Maybe I’ll reconsider being single and find a boyfriend to feel rich.
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Thanks for speaking up Bridget. I haven’t had that experience-but I’ve had good sex and bad sex and I’m pretty sure it had 0 to do with net worth. This is why we are blog besties.
bahahaha that IS why we’re blog besties.
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Hahahahahahahahahaha “my clitoris can now detect gold.”
To your point about how they know whether or not these people are lying or what they are comparing their sexual experiences against, well, there are pretty decent statistical techniques for that. Psychologists have managed to get a good handle on how well-calibrated people tend to be answering such questions based on past experience. They aren’t perfect but they work alright. Unfortunately, the article doesn’t really get into the specifics. You’d have to read the study itself to get the real info.
But yeah, people would be happier if they had more sex. Especially if it were with me.
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“The equivalent of having $50,000.00 more per year. (Before or after taxes is what I wanna know…)” Hehehe, made my day! So… if we want to become millionaires we better get to it!
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Oh dear, lol.
I don’t know about the wealth/good sex correlation. I’m not sure how they can really measure that anyway. Plus, we have always had hot sex, when we are poor and now that we aren’t. Giggada Giggada.
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LOL!
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Haha. Thanks for sharing Holly. Lawsy.
Hmm. I disagree with the notion that higher-net-worth people have less stress. They’re still tasked with the responsibility of preserving/protecting that wealth, and that’s a big burden, considering that the stakes are higher and the risk of loss is so much greater. They’re also more targeted by hucksters, so their defenses need to be higher. (Few people wage frivolous lawsuits against the poor.) And finally, they’re still subject to the same non-financial stresses as everyone else.
That said, it seems (from the CNN article) that a higher net worth is actually far better for female millionaires than for male millionaires (88 percent vs. 68 percent), because it leads to better female empowerment. That’s the part I find especially interesting ….
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I agree!
Haha I love this. I totally agree w/ Maslow’s hierarchy. It takes a long to time to get to self actualization, especially if we’re applying this theory to money/financial insecurities. I do not think more money=better/more sex. I think more honest communications/relationships about money could =better/more sex though. Two people could make 6+ figures/year and not be on he same page financially. When 2 ppl aren’t on the same page, especially about ‘big items’ (ie money) sex lives will be affected. Conversely 2 people who make little money but work together and manage money as a team probably have a healthier sex life….
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This was hilarious! Very entertaining writing, L. Bee!
I agree with you about the amount of trust we can put in answers to these questions. I used to think any sexual poll was useless. How many people are really going to answer the question, “Have you ever cheated on your spouse?” honestly? Similar to questions about hygiene. There are a number of pollees who feel societal pressure to live a certain way, and so they’re going to lie when asked a question like, “How many times do you brush your teeth each day?” Or “Do you floss?” So I don’t know how much I trust this study.
I definitely agree that more sex makes for happier people though.
KyleAAA was telling me pyschologists have a base for people who do not answer truthfully, but then again I wouldn’t know unless I read the entire study. It amazes me how much people are willing to admit to in the name of “science”.
This is too funny ! And I would have to say that more money does not mean a woman is suddenly happier sexually.. but perhaps it means that there is less stress in the relationship and therefore each partner wants to engage sexually more. Either way, interesting stuff!
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I wanna know how many women feel they *should* “put out” after a man buys them an expensive trip or some diamonds.
“my clitoris can now detect gold.”
While I laughed at my desk reading this…I think it is more profound than you meant it to be. If “gold” is security, safety, etc., wouldn’t it make sense that nature attuned your body to be able to be receptive to that type of guy. For example, go back a couple hundred years where money meant less it is like that part of the article/study could be replaced with the guy who could kill a bison and build a fire (I can NOT build a freaking fire without a lighter and that sucks lol).
Is it a rule? NO CHANCE…like there are any hard and fast rules when it comes to a woman’s body/mind…but is it really so unrealistic that over the course of a couple hundred thousand years things might have been different in terms of a woman’s ability to handle everything on her own?
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“Attraction is percieved, but orgasms are basically bumping and grinding against the right anatomy”
You don’t think there is a connection between attraction? and orgasm strength and satisfaction? For both sexes but even more so for women. Yeah, I’ll finish up but you don’t think it’ll be “better” (however you want to define it) with someone I am really into (even if it is into for that night) then just jumping on a grenade for a buddy?
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Personally, I think it’s more about the link between money and power, and thus the link between power and sex.
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I have to agree w/Eemusings. Discussing sex makes me uncomfortable (lol.. I’m ridiculous like that) but (maybe I missed this in the article) – did the females reporting the better sex with a more wealthy male know that those males were more wealthy? If so, I’d say the study is invalid. But, if they didn’t know, who knows – maybe it’s a confidence thing (linking to power).
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I have no idea, the article was vague, but I’d interested in knowing the specifics. I’d never imagine you were uncomfortable talking about the giggity-giggity
Best. Headline. Ever. When I walk around with my man bag that CLEARLY makes me look wealthy, I end up getting hit on non-stop. Thank you, L.
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Omg this is too funny! I definitely don’t think good sex has to do with the amount of money someone makes. Love that it will make you feel richer instantly, definitely remembering that haha!
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Haha hilarious take on the article. While I find the first part of the article hard to believe, the second part doesn’t surprise me at all, and is something that I think a lot of people take for granted. Thanks for tackling these hard to articulate topics in such a great way.
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What an interesting study. I always take findings like these with a grain of salt because I always wonder HOW they get their results. As you said, anyone can just lie and make up said orgasms in order to “get that paper.” Good stuff, though.
paper paper make it raaaaaaain!
Great headline — I wonder if looking wealthy would have the same effect on me as it does when Joe wears his purse?
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Like the saying goes, money can’t buy you love. Great post, thanks for the laugh. Cheers Mr.CBB
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I’m going with NOT correlated. However, I can see the confidence argument, but there are just as many broke confident people to – so there should be a double-blind study (that just got raunchy).
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Sex makes you happy. When you’re happy, you make more money. Ipso facto.
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This is great! You crack me up. You’re spot on, though. The whole thing is ridiculous. The idea that sex can be improved by the financial standings of one partner rather than an intimate connection (which I always argue has little to nothing to do with money,) is something I imagine rich men would like to perpetuate, but is simply ludicrous.
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