So 2013 is here. Finally. And now everyone sets a resolution they try and stick to, but usually fail at by mid-February. Still, I think it is a great sentiment, so I took an entire day (Sunday to be exact) to sit down and think about what I wanted from my life and my career and my relationships. I set some pretty lofty goals…. some I’ll share below, but some I will keep to myself. Still, looking back on 2012 I knew I’d never go forward in 2013 unless I set one important resolution:
This year I am going to STOP spending time on things that are not going to progress me towards my ultimate goals.
I do this all the freaking time. I watch episodes of television I have already seen when I should be doing errands or reading blogs. I sleep in when I should be exercising even when I so desperately want to lose the last 15 pounds (P.S. I lost
15 9 in 2012, woop woop!) I am especially bad about pouring myself into romantic relationships that I know aren’t a great fit or won’t work out because of sentiment or my need for distraction. That’s energy I need to spend on finishing my book, continuing to grow readership on this site, or finding a way to go out drinking and not be the weepy one.
My biggest pitfall in 2012 was that I spent so much time and energy on lost causes or things that did not matter or that I knew in my heart of hearts weren’t making me happy. I vowed to stop this in the New Year.
And then I broke my resolution one hour later….
When I spent the night being drunk and weepy over a guy I’ve been seeing since my break-up. A “rebound” if you will. Given how last night was my final shift at the workplace we share I thought we could at least be chummy in public. He completely ignored me at the party we both ended up at, and a
half bottle of champagne into the evening you can imagine how this devastated my feelings. I haven’t been able to go out once since my break-up without being the morose girl in the corner, one thing or another always sets me off: usually my ex-boyfriend, or someone giving me the stink eye when really they were just having contact trouble.
But that was last night, and now in the dreary light of day, I realize what happened after midnight proves the resolution I set for myself was the right one and that I need to keep at it, no matter how many failed attempts.
Some other goals for the year:
Lose the final 15 pounds and be down to my ideal weight of 122.
Pay off all of my debt: Around 4200.00 between student loans and credit cards (check out my post this Friday on how this happened….L Bee has been a bad, bad girl indeed.)
Increase Net Worth by 15,000.00
Grow daily page views by 400% by end of 2013.
Stop swearing so much.
I have about five more goals in the can, but I want to keep those to myself for now. I am working on getting a cork board for my office so I can always have the goals in plain view, and I’ve been thinking about trying a vision board for the first time in my life despite thinking they are horribly cheesy and cliche. Putting those feelings aside I recognize that now is the time for ultimate clarity, and if decoupaging some magazine cutouts to white board is going to help me get there, then by frick, lets do it.
…Here’s to a new year and new chances to make our goals and dreams happen.
How was your NYE? What resolutions did you make for the New Year?