…And we’re back with an LBee & the Money Tree favorite—sex and money. You frisky little devils ate this stuff up before, and I’m here to add a little somethin’ somethin’ to the conversation.
If you missed LBee’s colorful commentary about a CNNMoney article on money and sex, I’ll sum it up for you:
- wealthier people have better sex
- when a man’s net worth increases so does the frequency of their female partner’s orgasms
- people who have sex frequently enjoy an increases in their level of happiness equivalent to a $50,000 pay raise
And let’s not forget when L Bee made the infamous and unforgettable claim, “…much like the Lucky Charms leprechaun, my clitoris can now detect gold.” Ah-mazing. What I’d like to do is turn the premise of that article upside down.
Most of the CNN Money article focused on how wealth leads to great sex. The problem is WE AREN’T RICH YET. Are we to gawk and be jealous of rich people and their fantastical sex lives? No way. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Let’s take matters into our own bedrooms, because I believe that the reverse is true: great sex leads to wealth.
Sex and Money are Intertwined
Here’s why:
Fact 1: Great Sex Makes you Great at Your Job
The CNN Money article gave about one sentence to the idea that sex can lead to wealth. The article quoted Dr. Helen Fischer who said that the endorphins released by sex can give you increased creativity, problem-solving, cooperation, and confidence—potentially making you better at your job.
That just so happens to tie in beautifully with the research of one of my favorite authors.
Napoleon Hill, my financial philosopher of choice, is the writer of an all-time bestselling book, Think and Grow Rich. In this 1937 book, he condenses 20 years of wealth-building wisdom derived from 500 of the America’s richest people, from George Washington to Andrew Carnegie to Henry Ford.
In Think and Grow Rich, he devotes an entire chapter of this book to sex and success. In that chapter he offers this mini case study–“A teacher, who has trained and directed the efforts of more than 30,000 salespeople, made the astounding discovery that highly sexed men were the most efficient salesmen.”
We can safely assume that if these men were being taught the art of sales, they were not already wealthy. However, by being “highly sexed” they were able to sell more and likely become very wealthy.
When you can channel the effects of your sexual chutzpah into selling more, solving problems and wowing your boss with your charm and confidence, you’ve got a recipe for success, wealth and status.
Fact 2: More sex, less frivolous spending.
Most people in the first world crave adventure. Our brains are hardwired for novelty, and we start getting antsy when we go without it.
In the land of 9-5 cubicle-dwellers with only 2 weeks of PTO (read: most of the 20-something professional population), we are frequently deprived of adventure. Our cubes are gray, our schedule is repetitive and our vacations are short. To combat this bleakness, we overspend, overeat, and over-imbibe, (and probably watch too many cat videos on YouTube).
Sex has a pretty miraculous way of filling our need for adventure. It’s feisty and fun for our bodies and minds. Fulfilling that need for novelty can also can get us quickly to the phenomenon that “when your wealth rises, so do your number of orgasms.”
I’m just saying, practice makes perfect.
Fact 3: Better sex, better health
Sex also has some surprising health benefits that go beyond that woo-woo level of fulfillment I just talked about.
Scientific studies have shown that that people who have sex regularly have better blood pressure, immune systems, immune function, weight, and sleep than their counterparts who have sex less often. It also reduces stress, anxiety and mild depression.
That all makes evolutionary sense right? If your body is in baby-making mode, you better be in good health and emotionally stable!
The benefit to your wallet, of course, is that when you’re having sex more often, you’ll likely to spend less on expensive doctor’s visits, surgery, prescriptions, gym memberships, and even your pick-me-up cup of Joe.
Fact 4: Having more sex leaves you with less time to spend money.
If you’re cooped up under the covers for a few hours, you have way more fun things to think about than how to use your 20% coupon off at Bed Bath and Beyond.
‘Nuff said
All in all, as part of your financial success, I encourage you to push for that promotion, keep your checkbook balanced, and have sex at least once a week. Not only will it FEEL like a $50,000 pay raise, but might ACTUALLY help you make more and save more.
No lover in your life? I’m thinking that online dating service is looking like a pretty good investment right about now.
Leah Manderson is the founder and author of DollarDarlings.com. Through her blog and programs, she inspires women to become financially fierce through upgrading their money mindsets, making more money, investing in the stock market, and automating their finances. Professionally, she is an Investor Relations Manager for a boutique asset management company. You can follow her on Twitter at @leahmanderson.
Hi, my name is Lauren but I'm known to those nearest and dearest as L. Bee. After twenty-five years on the planet I have worked in a lot of industries, moved to many different cities, and made almost every money mistake you can make.Join me on my journey as I navigate my twenties and try not to pick my "money tree" bare.
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To all of these points: Correlation does not equal causation.
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Hi Emily and thanks for being the first comment. My main purpose with this article was to be cheeky. Could I have added more statistics? (According to the World Health Organization, the United States spent more on health care per capita ($7,146), and more on health care as percentage of its GDP (15.2%), than any other nation in 2008…since sex improves health in ways X, Y, and Z it can have the effect of reducing this cost to each person), YES. But the intent was more about fun, and providing a different opinion from the first article.
You could also say about the CNN Money article that correlation doesn’t equal causation–since the stats were based on first person opinions, how are we to know whether a.) they weren’t lying (the CNN article even says, “Wealthier people engage in more dishonest and unethical behavior…”), b.) people who have more sex get rich and therefore rich people have better sex, or c.) this sample of people just so happened to have better sex than the rest of the population.
In sum, I thought the article was baseless and wanted to provide a different side.
Interesting article. I like it and think it may be true. If you are wealthy, you are probably not spending your time worrying about money. You are spending your time doing more “productive” things!
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Very interesting.. I guess I need to make more time for this. We haven’t been doing so well in this department. We really need to make it a priority and not let other things get in the way.
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More sex also increases your chance of getting pregnant and having a life long change in your finances…
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Yes, I guess I should have mentioned PROTECTED sex. For all those against protected sex (devout Catholics, etc.), this post is definitely not as relevant!
That’s awesome Glen, ha! Hope fatherhood is treating you well mate.
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Okay, since your post was so good, now I’m dying to know…what is Fact 3, and why did it get edited out? =)
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haha whoops! editing error
Well this is a bummer for people who are single who aren’t having any!
Even if you are online dating, it’s not like you get the option REALLY to just have sex with whomever. But I can totally see how frequent sex DOES lead to greater confidence. This explains a lot. LOL!
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Wow! I’d love to comment more, but I’m calling my wife for a nooner so I write better this afternoon.
Awesome guest post. Even the Chinese judge was crying at the end.
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This explains so much. Enough said!
Hahahaha…loved this. Even happier the BF & I live together now…hehe
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See and I spend all this time worrying about my finances when I could just be trying to get laid.
Ha! This is a great post. I completely agree with it, I think that people don’t give sex the credit it should have for all of the positive benefits it brings to every day life.
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I must confess, the most sex I’ve ever had was when I was probably the most in debt and poor in University! It was a great stress relief. I’ll have to take these points to heart to get my $50,000 sexy-time raise
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“$50,000 sexy time raise” LOVE IT. Sounds like you should be a guest writer for L Bee! I’ll have to store that phrase up for later!
I don’t know if I agree with all the findings of this study. However, sex is free entertainment and does make us happier!
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Heh heh, so true! You can’t beat free.
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Awesome follow-up! I really do think a little more romping keeps your finances in check. I totally forgot that Think and Grow Rich had a whole chapter on this subject.
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Love the article!!
Sex is something that many forget. As someone who’s rolling single and happy, I often see friends in relationships lacking largely in this dept.
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Actually the sex is better in the 30′ and 40′s and often older. They actuallyknow what they are doing and enjoy doing it. Of course 2 20′ equal a 40 and that’s pretty hot right there.
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